How can we make room for our own, individual traumas when the traumas of our friends, families, neighbors, and fellow earthlings are so loud, so chaotic, so scary? Why should we? What's the difference between self pity and allowing yourself to feel so that you can heal? I have found the old saying to be true, the only way out is through.

To better allow the following information to be thought about rather than unconsciously rejected, let's explain that 'Why?'. Why should we take the energy to make room for our individual hurts when the world's 'matters more'? First things first, it doesn't. It matters. The same way anything else matters. There is inherent value in your experience just as there is value in everyone else's. We are all mirrors, all observers, all key aspects to the building blocks of the universe. We make up all that exists because we exist too. When we heal, we heal the world. When we make art, we create a universe. When we love ourselves, we create magick. Humans are energetic portals. It is up to us to maintain the boundaries necessary to stay safe and healthy. This is the difference between healing and pity. Pity makes you small, healing is part of your journey of growth. Pitying self or others is just bestowing negativity on their energetic field and thus making healing harder to reach, keeping them stuck in the plane in which coexists the hurt. Knowing ourselves is allowing others to exist. What we hate to see in others is either what we don't allow to exist in ourselves, or a disconnect we cannot even perceive allowing ourselves to experience. Taking ownership, autonomy of our experience is often the hardest thing to do, but it is a catalyst to existing in an entirely new realm. 

The question remains, 'How'? How can we make room for our own hurt when the world's is so big? The question, in part, has actually already been answered. 

Our hurt is the world's. Every tear is the same and all exist together. Every experience, no matter how different, no matter how seemingly contradictory, all exist. Everything exists. Experiencing 'fakeness', simulations, is as real as life in a prison, zoo, or lab. All the scary experiences you wouldn't dare dream of happening to you exist as another's experience. Slavery in the Congo. American-funded genocides in Palestine and Sudan. Those are only three. Everything exists despite our ability or inability to perceive it. Only you are able to perceive your pain as you do because you are the only being who experienced it. Hurt matters no matter where it exists. Neglecting your own is neglecting another's. Healing your own is healing another's. We are all made up of each other, chemically, biologically, energetically. We exist on the same planet in similar compounds, varying structures of the same things. We are part of the same big ecosystem. We are all earthlings. We all exist because of each other. Loving yourself is loving all. It is arguably the most radical thing you can do in a world so hurt. The only way out is through, and that includes loving you.